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Wednesday, February 22, 2017

You’re Slowing the Process

                God’s timing is one of the most frustrating, misunderstood blessings in disguise that we often encounter. We live in such an instant gratification world, that the term long-suffering is a mystery. Like most of you, I absolutely hate waiting on things. I am sometimes so impatient that I have even taken things out of the microwave (yeah, that machine that speeds up the cooking process) before they are ready. When that happens, the process is actually slowed down. Rather than 2 more minutes of cooking, it turns into 2 ½ or 3 more minutes because of my lack of patience.
                My two oldest daughters (2 ½ and 5 years old) live in a phase of slowing down the process. My 2-year-old insists that she can do everything herself. Whether it’s putting on clothes or buckling her car seat, she has to do it. Most of the time I don’t really mind, however, it seems like her biggest tantrums always happen when she wants to do something herself but I know she can’t. It doesn’t matter how logical my reasoning is, in her 2-year-old mind she knows how to do it. Of course, when I let her go ahead and try, it turns into a tantrum because she can’t do it. By the time I settle her down, 15 minutes have passed for a 30 second task. My 5-year-old is the exact same way. She is little miss independent right now and loves to help cook. She wants to dump ingredients and stir them together. At one point, she was helping her dad cook one of his favorite things and decided to jump ahead and not wait for instructions. She ended up dumping half a bag of powdered sugar into the bowl. Thankfully, he was able to get most of it out and it didn’t ruin the whole recipe, but it added about 10 minutes to the process. If she would have just been patient, they could have eaten their snack a lot sooner. 
I think we so often do the same thing in our walk with God. We don’t want to wait on his timing so, like my 2-year-old, we insist on doing it ourselves. We try to force on the pants when both our legs are in the same hole, then wonder why we get so frustrated. Or maybe like my oldest daughter, we are so anxious to get to the end result, we jump ahead and start adding our own ingredients before we know if those ingredients are even in the recipe. When we do that, God not only needs to help us, but he must first undo all the damage we created in the process of doing it ourselves. I struggle so much with not jumping ahead of God’s plan. When I feel called in a certain direction, I want to run and not walk. Yet, we are not always asked to run. Sometimes we are told to wait.  
After Jesus was resurrected, He told his disciples to wait before they went out to preach. I’m sure that they were fired up and ready to go out and save the world, but they had to wait. “And while staying with them He ordered them not to depart from Jerusalem, but to wait for the promise of the Father, which, He said, ‘you heard from me; for John baptized with water, but you will be baptized with the Holy Spirit not many days from now.’” Acts 1:4-5 ESV. They needed the power of the Holy Spirit before they could be truly effective ministers to the nations.

Perhaps in our time of waiting, God is empowering us for the thing that he is calling us to do. Rather than trying to force the hand of God and slowing down the process, maybe it’s time to wait and let Him show us day by day and step by step what we are supposed to do.

Friday, February 17, 2017

Driving Lessons


My daughter recently turned 5 years old. Since then, she has really felt like she is older and can do more things. She just loves helping her dad work outside and in his shop. The weather around here has been absolutely gorgeous lately, and last weekend we went out to help tear down an old fence. Once we got the panels and fence posts taken down, my husband went to go get his little tractor to load them up to haul them over to the place he was stacking them. Of course, my girls wanted to help him because they love riding on the tractor.
                On their way back with the tractor, my husband did something that a lot of daddies do, he let my oldest daughter steer as he was driving. She was so excited, this wasn’t the first time she has steered, but it was the longest amount of time. When she got off she told me that she just got done with her driving lessons and that she knows how to drive now. In the days since, she has told me several times about knowing how to drive and has even started giving me instructions about watching where I’m going when I am driving.
                I started thinking about her driving skills yesterday. It occurred to me that so many of us look at our own lives the same way that she was looking at her knowledge of driving. We think we are in ultimate control of our lives and are “driving”, when really everything we have been given is a blessing. Just like I know, as a parent, that she does not really know how to drive, God knows that regardless of how “in control” we may think we are, ultimately, He is the one in control. Now, that is not to say that He doesn’t give us free will and reign in certain areas of our lives. It does mean, however, that we are just like that little 5-year-old, we may be making those small decisions and slight turns of the wheel, but when we are about to run into a fencepost, God will grab that wheel and course correct if needed. “We can make our plans, but the LORD determines our steps.” Proverbs 16:9
                These course corrections may not be easy, but they will always be beneficial. They will also never be contrary to the Bible (so don’t think God is calling you to cheat on your spouse or steal from your employer). Jonah had a course correction in the form of a giant storm, and ended up smelling like fish guts (see Jonah Chapter 1). The Israelites had a course correction in the form of wandering around for 40 years because of their poor decision making skills and lack of trust (see the whole book of Exodus). I had my own course correction, in 2009 when I was laid off from a job I loved. As tough as they are to go through (and I still haven’t learned to love going through course corrections, sometimes I downright hate it), they are always for our benefit. Even in my own situation, I can look back now and see that God was taking me in a different direction for my benefit.